Self Trust Blog

If relationships feel emotionally intense, confusing or unstable, attachment patterns may be influencing how you connect with others. Many people find themselves caught between longing for closeness and feeling overwhelmed by it. Anxious attachment can show up as fear of abandonment, overthinking or needing constant reassurance. Avoidant attachment may look like emotional withdrawal, difficulty trusting others or feeling suffocated by intimacy. Some people experience both patterns, often referred to as fearful-avoidant attachment. These responses are not flaws or personality traits. They are adaptive strategies that developed early in life to maintain emotional safety. While they once served a purpose, they can cause distress in adult relationships. When attachment patterns are activated, the nervous system can move quickly into threat mode. This can make communication difficult, amplify emotional reactions and create cycles of closeness and distance that feel exhausting. Therapy offer...

Burnout is often described as exhaustion, but for many women it goes far deeper than feeling tired. It can leave you feeling disconnected from yourself, unsure of who you are and questioning how you ended up feeling so depleted. Professional women experiencing burnout often say things like,  “I don’t recognise myself anymore,”  or  “I used to cope so well, what’s wrong with me now?”  These thoughts can bring shame, fear and a sense that something has fundamentally broken. Burnout tends to develop gradually, particularly in people who are conscientious, empathetic and used to managing responsibility. Over time, chronic stress keeps the nervous system in a heightened state, making rest feel unsafe and self-worth feel dependent on productivity or achievement. As burnout deepens, identity often becomes entangled with performance. When you can no longer function at the same pace, it can feel like you’ve lost your sense of purpose or value. This is not a personal failure. ...